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I came cross a young man who clearly enjoying a dish of fish that he was eating. And he said young man why are you eating that fish? Young man says “because I love fish”. He said “oh you love the fish, that’s why you took it out of the water and killed it and boiled it”. He said “”don’t “tell me you love the fish. You love yourself”. Because the fish tastes good to you. Therefore you took it out of the water, killed it and boiled it. So much what is called love is fish love. So young couple fall in love. What does that mean? That means he sad in this women. Someone who he felt would provide with all his physical and emotional needs, and she felt in this man, somebody she feels that she can write “that was love”. But each one is looking out for their own needs. It’s not love for the other. The other person becomes vehicle for my gratification. Too much what is called love is fish love.
An external love is not what I’m gonna get, is what I’m gonna give. People always make a serious mistake in thinking that you give to those whom you love. And the real answer is, you love those to whom you give. If I give something to you, I’ve invested myself in you. And since self-love is a given, everybody loves themselves, now that part of me has become in you, there’s part of me in you that I love. So, True love is a love of giving, not a love of receiving.
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